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06/07/2019 at 4:49 AM

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I was diagnosed 2 weeks ago with breast cancer I have not started any treatments yet still waiting on some more test results before I make my decision on what treatment I want to go with! Alot of people are now starting to figure out something is off with me so I'm trying to figure out how to tell people without it being to big of a deal

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09/06/2019 at 11:48 PM

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@Mustangmama It is hard to figure out who to tell,you really never know how your family members and friends will react. Some people may try to drown you in support , even when you might want to be left alone. Others pretend nothings wrong because they are frightened just by the word "cancer" . Or they want you to feel "normal"when you are sick or sad or tired, or you've gone bald. I am the kind of person that is a care taker , and does not do well when others want to care for me. I did appreciate their help especially when I was exhausted after the Nulasta shots I took the day following chemo. it was like a 24-36 hour flu. I did manage to tell people just exactly how much help and when I needed help. communication was key. Do not be afraid of telling family you need alone time , or you really need help. hugs, Denise

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Advice on how to tell people I have breast cancer https://www.carenity.us/forum/breast-cancer/living-with-breast-cancer/telling-people-1071 2019-09-06 23:48:25

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It is hard to figure out who to tell,you really never know how your family members and friends will react. Some people may try to drown you in support , even when you might want to be left alone. Others pretend nothings wrong because they are frightened just by the word "cancer" . Or they want you to feel "normal"when you are sick or sad or tired, or you've gone bald. I am the kind of person that is a care taker , and does not do well when others want to care for me. I did appreciate their help especially when I was exhausted after the Nulasta shots I took the day following chemo. it was like a 24-36 hour flu. I did manage to tell people just exactly how much help and when I needed help. communication was key. Do not be afraid of telling family you need alone time , or you really need help. hugs, Denise

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Advice on how to tell people I have breast cancer https://www.carenity.us/forum/breast-cancer/living-with-breast-cancer/telling-people-1071 2019-09-06 23:49:43

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09/07/2019 at 5:12 AM

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I have noticed that I need to be more specific if I need help. I am learning!

Advice on how to tell people I have breast cancer https://www.carenity.us/forum/breast-cancer/living-with-breast-cancer/telling-people-1071 2019-09-07 05:12:44

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09/17/2019 at 2:29 AM

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@Mustangmama I hope that things are going well with you . This site is a little hard for me to navigate. I will try to answer questions because I have been through a lot. I can only answer by my own experiences of course but I am happy to help if you have questions -Denise p.s. sorry it took so long to get back to you I am going to try to check in more often.

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Advice on how to tell people I have breast cancer https://www.carenity.us/forum/breast-cancer/living-with-breast-cancer/telling-people-1071 2019-09-17 02:29:31

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09/17/2019 at 4:33 AM

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Thanks for asking, Denise. I got a little bad news last week. I had a large seroma (fluid accumulation) under my arm and incision. I had to get a new drain tube, but it comes out tomorrow and I should feel a lot better. The great news is that my Scores were low so I don't have to take chemo! I feel very blessed.

Advice on how to tell people I have breast cancer https://www.carenity.us/forum/breast-cancer/living-with-breast-cancer/telling-people-1071 2019-09-17 04:33:14

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07/08/2021 at 7:19 PM

@Courtney_J I am getting very nervous and scared because the surgery is July 13, 2021. My parents both died this year so I dont have them to talk to. My mom died on Feb 16, 2021 with a sickness she was suffering for 18 months so i was dealing with that for the last months and then my dad had a major stroke 3 weeks after my mom passed away and he could no longer go back to his assistance living so we had to find a nursing home. We found one he was only in there 3 weeks and then he passed away on May 6, 2021. Right after all that I was diagnosed with cancer so I have been on a train that is non-stop. I feel like I am so tried out and I dont have much energy left. My sisters are not helpful they keep telling me just pray. They both got to take 2 weeks vacation after my mom and dad passed away. I have not even had time to take a breather I am just on the train of bad luck. That is how I am feeling.

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