I can't stop self-sabotaging

Hello @Brooencody‍, thank you for sharing what you've been going through. When we go through hard times we can sometimes develop negative thoughts or habits against ourselves that can be really hard to break. Let me tag some other members who can possibly share with you.

Hi everyone, how are you doing? Have you ever found yourself stuck in a loop of self-sabotaging thoughts or behaviors? How did you overcome it? Is there anything that helped you to break the cycle?
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Feel free to share any experiences and advice here!

Take care,
Courtney

I’ve definitely been one for self sabotaging. It took me probably close to 10 years to realize. I feel like it happened because I’m so used to the bad going on in my life that I always expect the bad to happen. So if something good happens I self sabotage before I can get my hopes up. I can relate with the drinking, drug using, abusing, and “suicidal”parental figures. I can also relate to the dying (but not from cancer), and the jealousy. I get way too jealous too easily. Basically everything except the religion aspect. But what really helped me is I finally realized that if I keep down this path. Nothing good will ever come. If I want to be better to everyone else, I have to start with myself. I struggle with this every single day. But I know that I never want to end up like all of the parental figures in my life. So I have to prove to myself I can make it and I can strive even though I was dealt a bad hand. But it takes belief in yourself   That belief is hard to come by. But if you really want to help yourself then it’s worth the fight. I would also recommend a burn journal. They are cheap. So you can write down all of your emotions and you can destroy it as soon as you’ve finished. It helps to write it down. But it also helps to destroy all the thoughts in the journal instead of destroying yourself. (I’ve never ever been a fan of journaling until I found that). To me it sends a moment of relief saying hey. I can take it out on this journal instead of sabotaging myself. I’m here if you need to talk one on one.