Dealing with HIV, PERIOD!!

I'm sorry you are going through this but I love your resolve to deal with this and not give up. 

I would love to talk to you anytime. 

Its been 10 yrs and i still cant believe it but on the bright side i take meds everyday i am not detected and have not been since 2012 i have a great dr and i know its a hard pill to swallow as far as dating someone with the virus u need to be care ful ur partner may have a diff strain and could make u sicker or u could harm them i was so convinced my life was over no one will ever live me and i ended up having 3 more children my partner did not contract this virus alot of people dont believe that this medicine ur on not only will it save ur life but the lives of others to my babies are all negative and healthy some times i feel sorry for my self and get sad and cry. But i stay strong because u are 100 percent right the fight is not over now i am starting to look for support groups im thinking  of doing the walk or march they do in i think i need to meet other with this condition find out how others feel maybe it will help me feel better i know i was blessed with my children but i deal with other things in life that dont make having this virus so easy i hope this helped a little im sorry and keep fighting 

Thanks @Dotcom0100‍ and @Luchtori‍ 😁

I just found out I am positive. I have a toddler who I need to get tested now. I feel humiliated and disgusted in myself. I could handle this for myself but not for my baby. 😢 I breastfeed him and only now is the father letting me know he is positive after fleeing the country. 

If my son has it I dont know. I'm pretty sure he does. I dont want him to live his life like this... because of me. It's not fair.

I cant look at my son and I have no one to turn to. Any other single mothers with HIV?

 So look.  I know there's nothing I can say that can bring relief to this situation. Worse fears becoming Reality is devastating I can imagine. And that precious little child affected makes it just that more difficult. 

I'm glad you are seeking help from other single parents who have this experience. I think that's where our strength lies. This signals that Something inside you is a fighter . And IF  your son is positive then he too will need that resilience to overcome any challenges that he faces. 

Science have come a long way with this epidemic so do not give up. They actually have a pill now that people can take to prevent the infection. This shows how far we have come.

 my desire is to be helpful in anyway I can however I think that you seeking help from different people as well as professional help is on the mark.

Please hit me up anytime I'm always here if you need some one to talk to. 

Hello @justlove123‍ I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. I'm sure it must be heartbreaking. Please know that getting him tested was the first step on the journey towards giving him a better life and making your life better too. If he is positive, he will be treated and with advances in medicine, he will enjoy a normal life expectancy and the possibility of having a partner and children that are healthy and happy. HIV is not a death sentence and you and your son are not doomed to exile either.

Please feel free to keep posting updates in the forum, even if you just need to share how you feel. As you can see, we are here to support you.

Take care,

Lee

Wow, all of you are awesome here. Your responses are spot on, and I can hear your compassion for those newly diagnosed, who are surely dealing with so many emotions right now. 

Bettetthanbefore, you have a great outlook to this. You mentioned natural healing. May I ask if you are trying this solely, and if so, do you have a Dr monitoring you? I work at a Health Department as peer counselor for our HIV/AIDS clients, and have seen others try the natural route only. I have yet to see it keep someone's viral load at bay.  I too, had tried a believed natural cure, way back in the late 90s, so I certainly don't mean to squash any hope, or sway your choice. I just want you to be monitored regularly. 

Justlove123, please try not to be so hard on yourself. You are the victim of a jerk that doesn't care about anyone he infects. Sadly, I see this regularly. You will soon understand that your little one will need your strength and will not hold this against you. Your loving your child's father, and bringing a child into the world, is beautiful. Yet he tarnished the beauty, by not loving you enough to be honest, sooner. You have nothing to be ashamed of. If your son is positive, he will grow up knowing nothing else, and will live a very good life, despite being positive. It will be your job, positive or not, to raise him to not be like his father, but to be open minded, kind, and compassionate, teaching him how to treat others, how they want to be treated. Your son will not be doomed to a world against him, unless you teach him to feel that way. Show him that, despite the challenges in your life, you can hold your head high, and be proud of yourself for doing what you have to do, to take care of you both.  I know that I am not fully aware of your circumstances, and you might say it's easy for me to say. I dont know your background, but I am fully aware that some cultures are extremely cruel to those that have the virus. We here in the USA, still have work to be done, to overcome stigmas. The best I can say, is that you are not alone, you are not doomed, and you are not unworthy of love. Please continue reaching out and taking care of yourself. You will feel overwhelmed at times, but you will get thru this. 

@PeerJanice‍ I agree...And no, I also take my medication as well, as soon as I was diagnosed. I just use natural remedies for overall health daily. It's just that before I found out I was HIV positive, the natural remedies kept me alive...😁

Thank you. I'm so glad your health is so important. Let me know if you have questions or just need to talk. XO