Do people choose to be depressed?

Hi. @rollingstone1. Thx for comments. I, for 1, don't think u are a bad friend. Yikes, about your friend almost taking her life!! I can relate, having debilitating depression during winter ( SAD). Summer is much brighter, no pun intended. I, wouldn't believe anyone would "choose" to be depressed, given how I feel. I've tried committing suicide a few times too, yet I'm still here. I wonder what my purpose is in life ( also single) by choice. Been proposed to twice, both I've declined. Depression is not merely skin deep, it invades your entire being. I gather u Can have it all, & still feel depressed. I'd almost call it feeling unworthy. That's how hard it can seem. I take antidepressants every day, have a therapist, psychiatrist, have had group therapy, even shock treatments. The latter works best for me. However, they can leave u experiencing memory loss, & other symptoms I don't know about. Google ECT, it's not pretty, But, it's also not like One Flew Over the Coocoos Nest. I don't know if I've helped explain what depression is or feels like, as I believe 1 has to truly go thru an event before fully understanding it. Been despondent my entire adult life, & know I had symptoms as a kid. My memory is failing due to age, & I apologize if any of this is misunderstood. I tried my best. That's my experience with depression.

Try to keep in touch with your friend. She may not have lots of additional support. And, a big thing I learned is, just listening can help. Good luck.

First off, I'm really sorry you're going through this, and I'm glad your friend is getting help. Depression doesn't care about how perfect someone's life looks on the outside. It’s a real, deep, and often invisible struggle. You’re not a bad friend at all; sometimes people hide their pain really well.

I'm really sorry to hear about your friend's situation. It's understandable that you’re feeling confused and concerned. Depression doesn’t always align with external appearances, and it’s not uncommon for someone who seems to have a perfect life to struggle with deep internal pain.
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Hello everyone,

How are you doing today?

I know this is such a sensitive topic, but if anyone has gone through something similar, either personally or with a loved one, I’d love to hear your thoughts or experiences.

How did you navigate supporting someone with depression? What helped you understand it better?

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This is such a complex issue, and your insights might help others in the community who are facing similar situations. Please feel free to share, and let's keep this a safe and supportive space for everyone. 💬💙

Take care now,

Somya from the Carenity team 🌼

@rollingstone1. Hi. Oh my goodness!! Seems a lot on your plate. First, let me tell u I'm Delighted your friend didn't succeed in committing suicide. Very Dark place, indeed!!! Been there a few times, & Never want to go back. Then, 2, by no means, are u a bad person for not noticing signs of her wanting to kill herself. Sometimes, maybe, frequently, ppl don't offer direct signs, outwardly, about wanting To die. Given she mentioned "I wish I didn't exist" is quite clear. Yet, not everyone who says that does want to die. Usually it's a cry for help. So I've learned in my old age.

I wish the best for both of u. Suggestion is to lend a listening ear. Occasionally, folks just need to talk. Hugs.