How do you manage to open yourself up and be vulnerable?

@HustlasAmbition5 Hello HustlasAmbition5, thank you for opening this discussion. Opening yourself up to others and being vulnerable is so hard. Let me tag some other members who can potentially talk about this with you.

Hi everyone, how are you doing? Where and how do you find the strength to be open and vulnerable about how you feel with others? How do you find the courage to ask for help when you need?
@LornaSuzanne‍ @peach_corr‍ @JX9876‍ @Gd67man‍ @Kai4252‍ @Pammy67‍ @Kpk1324‍ @Readyfornormal‍ @Ari170‍ @Godhammer‍ @jallman9088‍ @Dobb53‍ @TinaDot49‍ @d.estinyy.y‍ @ValSer7194‍ @Steph111660‍ 

Feel free to share your thoughts and advice here!

Take care,
Courtney

I don't like to open up to people I don't either two things happen; I tell you what you want to hear and speed the conversation up or I become a basket case. I have to really trust someone to actually open up to them that is why it is so hard for me to go to a therapist. I have not had any success in going to a therapist for one because the one that I went to after I was raped kept looking at her phone and I felt like I was wasting her time. The other therapist I went to just told me to listen to my co-worker no matter if she is bullying me or being rude to me because she had seniority. The other therapist was nice but really did not help me on my depression just how much me and my supervisor could not get along since I was working two jobs. So, I am reluctant to go and talk to someone.

Watch Brene Brown’s Ted Talk on courage and vulnerability... she explains how important being vulnerable is and how we can not have joy or belonging without it!

https://youtu.be/iCvmsMzlF7o

@ValSer7194 Hello ValSer7194, I'm sorry to hear you were let down by multiple therapists, but I hope you won't let it deter you from seeking help in the future if you need it! 

@Vlrose07‍ Thank you for sharing the video, I'm sure many of us will find it helpful!

Take care,
Courtney

Thank you, I appreciate everyone who took the time to write I’m just not good when it comes to me I can help the whole world and I do though when it comes to me I just don’t know how to expose myself 😒 & I can’t even afford to cause I literally have to be strong for everyone 💔

@HustlasAmbition5 I totally understand because I am in the same situation. I cannot do anything for myself right now or even breathe because I am helping my dad with my mom right now since she has moderate to severe dementia and my brother does not help. He will buy them trinkets every now and then and my dad thinks that it is Christmas.  I do everything wrong but my brother is the "golden child".  He is seven years older than I am. This has been my childhood. I am just so tired from everything!  I would love to disappear!! 

@Courtney_J Oh, I need it but I have no idea where to start to look for someone. Sometimes I have uncontrollable crying and I just want to go somewhere and commit myself right then.  I have stress at work, my back has been stabbed so much this past year. Everyone is getting raises and promotions but I am the lowest paid lowest position but I am here every day .  I have been with this company for 20 years as an Administrative Assistant. No raises and no promotions for me. I have applied to other places and as soon as I get a "Yes" i am gone!! I hate working for the government because of the nepotism and cliques. Since I am an outsider anyway and I have trust issues I do not settle well with who I work with. Believe me, they do not know how to separate personal from business. It is all personal. We have had several Covid-19 cases in the building where we rent from the City and the City has sent every employee home but the county is still working and even though we rent from the City we are still working in the building. 

Not only that but I have lost contact with a friend that I have loved for 15 years.  I really do not want to get into that because it just starts me crying and today at this time no tears so hopefully I can make it through one day without crying.  I miss him terribly it hurts me so much!

My Mom Sunday night was not any better. Her dementia is progressing and she is getting combative and non-compliant.  My dad is in denial that the dementia is progressing and is frustrated which in turn makes it harder on me since I am helping him. 

Just pray for me.  I need all the prayers and positive energy I can get!! 

@Vlrose07 This video really helped me see things a little differently. I took notes through the segment and I will re-read them later. Thank you for suggesting this video . Brene Brown is now a favorite!

@HustlasAmbition5 but being vulnerable is strong and courageous!!