HIV Since Birth

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Marq93

01/21/2020 at 5:43 AM

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Hi, everyone. I am female and 26 (almost 27) years old and I have had HIV since birth, All of my life I have been on constant medications and to be honest.....I'm tired of them. I HATE pills and have a hard time consuming them. As I got older over the years, I started to become very self-conscious about my condition and it caused to go into a deep depression. I was scared to date anyone because of the intense fear of rejection. I cope sometimes by eating a lot, which made it worse due to my excessive weight gain, I became very irresponsible with my medication intake to the point of almost dying from pneumonia last year. This year, I'm trying to keep my head above water and not drown in my own sorrows again. I just want to be able to have someone who can love me, regardless of my condition. When is a good time to tell your partner about it before things go too far?

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01/21/2020 at 1:01 PM

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If your just dating and no sex, don't bother. But once you think about getting closer then you should tell that person. Like as soon as it starts to get serious. But you have to deal with intelligent people for now in who are educated about the virus. For me, I have been positive for 3 months now and on meds. I have no desire to date even right now just focused on me. But when I decide to date I will tell someone right away, that way I will know if I could take them serious or not. It is what it is, they except it or not.

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@Marq93 I've always told people upfront. It's a great filter. If the person's an ass, they'll react like an ass and that saves you from having to find out about it later. It's normal for you to be scared and it's normal for the person you tell to be scared too. There's too little education about HIV out there and too many people still think they can get it through kissing or even touching.

I'd say be honest from the beginning, but be willing to explain how HIV works and to be patient. In my case, my partner was hesitant at first because he didn't know much about HIV, but now he's fine about it.

HIV Since Birth https://www.carenity.us/forum/other-discussions/living-with-hivaids/hiv-since-birth-1491 2020-02-04 16:08:19

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03/12/2020 at 12:54 AM

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@hivver yeah you’re right, it’s best to tell them upfront and not lead people on.

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