I can’t get myself out of bed.

Hi @BLeeH26,

Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. I can only imagine how hard it must have been to write all of that down and open up about everything you’ve been through. The fact that you did shows that you have a lot of courage, even if you don’t feel very strong right now. You’ve faced homelessness, trauma and such deep exhaustion, and through all of that, you’ve kept going. That’s no small thing. Moving out of a harmful situation, getting a job and your own place, and still trying to get through life even when feeling like you’re at your lowest mean that you’re surviving, step by step, and that is powerful.

I also want to gently acknowledge something you mentioned, what happened with your friend’s husband was not your fault. Taking one's life is a highly complicated and heartbreaking decision that no one can fully predict or control. It’s natural to question “what if,” but the responsibility for that loss does not fall on you. You did what you could to protect your own well-being by leaving a harmful situation, and that was an incredibly brave and necessary step.

The symptoms that you've described so far, like feeling disconnected, exhausted, trapped in bed, struggling with eating, and unsure of your next move, are something many people dealing with anxiety, depression, or PTSD can relate to. They often leave you feeling stuck in your body and mind, like no amount of effort will ever be enough to feel normal again. But your experience isn’t a reflection of weakness, it’s a reflection of pain that deserves care and compassion. Sometimes, just hearing “me too” or “I understand” from someone who’s been there can lift a bit of the weight. Let me tag a few members of this community who might have missed this discussion to bring it to their attention:

@Ineedhelp18 @bmorga01 @Novaraiyn @kaitlynn326 @Jujubeaner @Mrspeedy @Jenny53 @Tiger4250 @Jgbrackett6 @Taywill @Noah2142 @ItalianStrongman @Danielle_1984 @Christine78 @Marcus @Butterfly2 @jphawk60 @Babyface @DD122249seventy @irisfairy1967 @Grama6 @moonshower2 @Lcody309 @Jenny64 @Judybow76 @Angelrica @Care99 @JulieColbert @Tina01 @LuAnnie @Paula66 @Mamaof5 @nagol52897 @Daveberman1963 @smithbornagain @BoozerM @Alissa @melissaclark @HondaRod @Gremlin @Aujburd @Monimac51 @Carladavis @Patty123 @MonaAnn @Jeff123 @Candice.S @debbie75 @Boomama @Jellybean @countrychickusa79 @Jenn11 @Spence0 @Morckster @Saifk5 @Tommyboy69 @addnurse1 @SherrillClark @heartroot @Kimbavee @Eugenius117 @BLeeH26 @Pandoralovely @laughljp @KhushPanchal @randycollins235 @SandraCarey @Twin2mar @DessaK @pkwillhoite @Melindaanne1315 @Emilyj1109 @Kianhu @pbeckford @Caroline3467 @JTeeter @Phyllis0915 @Meadow @Kimberly56 @Shelliebean @sissyk @unknownsadness @Lulu77 @Racin2God @aprilw48 @coqui531 @forever42** @MerlinSage @dcritch47 @Darylann @Mattboy90 @kaki!864 @paddyboyz @Goldie54 @Sunflower1 @KikiGoodman @Karenkmi2 @Markjken @DJacob

For anyone living with anxiety or depression: Have you ever gone through a time when even getting out of bed felt impossible? What helped you cope—or what small steps helped you start feeling a little more like yourself again?

You are not alone, and this community is here to support you. If you feel up to it, maybe this space can be a small way to connect, vent, or ask for support on a day when things feel too heavy. You're not expected to have it all figured out. You're allowed to rest. You're allowed to ask for help. And you're absolutely worthy of feeling safe, seen, and cared for.

We're here for you,

Somya from the Carenity Team 🌼

I'm really sorry you're going through all of this. You’ve been through so much, and it makes sense that you feel exhausted—physically, mentally, and emotionally. Just surviving everything you’ve been through is proof of your strength, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.

It’s okay to not have all the answers, but you don’t have to go through this alone. Even small steps—like reaching out to someone you trust, eating something nourishing, or stepping outside for fresh air—can help. If you're struggling to get out of bed, maybe setting one tiny, achievable goal for the day (like drinking a glass of water) could be a starting point.

You deserve support, and there are people who care about you. If you haven’t already, reaching out for professional help could be a game-changer. Mental Health Connect has resources that might help guide you toward finding the support you need.

You are not the gum on the bottom of a shoe—you are a person who has been through an incredible amount and is still here. That counts for something. You matter. 💙