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Where is all the help offered in the beginning

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Sluggo

08/14/2018 at 6:48 AM

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When people first find out you have cancer, they offer help. You don’t need it in the beginning so you turn them down. Then when you get more into your treatments and the hash reality sets in, you wonder where all the help went? People stop offering.

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08/16/2018 at 7:55 AM

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Yes after 4 years of this I have noticed the help or offer of help declined after 6 months.

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Samantha

08/17/2018 at 3:25 AM

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I was upbeat, cheerful and positive when I first got diagnosed. I didn’t complain much post lumpectomy and thru radiation. Nobody sent a card, flowers, food, phone call or even a text. Nobody has asked me how I’m doing. It seems if I didn’t lose my hair or complain it was easy. I’m struggling emotionally, it’s been a hard 7 months I’m still sore and constantly on the verge of tears. But, I look damn good having lost 15 lbs.

Where is all the help offered in the beginning https://www.carenity.us/forum/cancer/living-with-cancer/where-is-all-the-help-offered-in-the-beginning-349 2018-08-17 03:25:31

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08/23/2018 at 3:51 AM

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@Samantha‍ enjoy the one pro - the weight loss.

Try to stay cheerful. How are your treatments going?

DId you tell anyone about your diagnosis or did you try and keep it a secret? I have heard of those who tried keeping it a secret, but if you have a supportive family and friends, I Think letting the know is best.

Seek a counselor if you can or confide in someone you love. I always confided in my mother.

Where is all the help offered in the beginning https://www.carenity.us/forum/cancer/living-with-cancer/where-is-all-the-help-offered-in-the-beginning-349 2018-08-23 03:51:38

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DCline3dogs

02/18/2024 at 9:05 PM

I completely understand as I don’t have anyone to talk to also. I’m a widow & I live alone. My oldest son died in 2021 & my youngest son & his family live 3 hours. My father is dead & my mother has chronic back pain & is immobile. My younger sister lives with our mother & she is going through a divorce from her husband who abandoned her. My sister doesn’t visit me, help me, call me & rarely texts me. I have various cousins, a niece & nephew that are spread out in nearby states but are hours away from me. After I told my friends I had cancer, they quit contacting me. I have learned how to be my own care giver. It has been very difficult. I’ll admit I’ve been depressed, cried a lot, felt sorry for myself but I never gave up. I prayed & read my Bible everyday. Then I found cancer groups online like this one where I could share what I was going through & got empathetic responses. That really kept me going. I hope you find someone to talk to but I highly recommend the online cancer chat groups.

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