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Cancer "survivor": How do you feel about this term?
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tdenuszek
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Last activity on 11/20/2024 at 12:29 AM
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I personally do not use the word survivor. I have been clear of bladder cancer for over a year now. I was terminally ill with stage 4 bladder cancer in the summer of 2019, My Oncologist switched me from chemo to immunotherapy in July 2019. I had a complete 180 in my cancer and after my operation in Dec 2019 my bladder, prostrate and lymphnodes and continued on my immunotherapy for another year. I was then pronounced clear of cancer in October 2020. I still have CT's done biyearly and so far am clear. The only thing I feel is a stigma is my ostomy bag and my extreme ED from them cutting my lymphnodes out and severed my nerves. This is the only discouragement I have, not having intimacy with my wife anymore. I am very grateful to be alive and able to enjoy my families and friends company. would like to know how others have handled their intimacy after an extreme case. Thanks, Terry
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I completely understand as I don’t have anyone to talk to also. I’m a widow & I live alone. My oldest son died in 2021 & my youngest son & his family live 3 hours. My father is dead & my mother has chronic back pain & is immobile. My younger sister lives with our mother & she is going through a divorce from her husband who abandoned her. My sister doesn’t visit me, help me, call me & rarely texts me. I have various cousins, a niece & nephew that are spread out in nearby states but are hours away from me. After I told my friends I had cancer, they quit contacting me. I have learned how to be my own care giver. It has been very difficult. I’ll admit I’ve been depressed, cried a lot, felt sorry for myself but I never gave up. I prayed & read my Bible everyday. Then I found cancer groups online like this one where I could share what I was going through & got empathetic responses. That really kept me going. I hope you find someone to talk to but I highly recommend the online cancer chat groups.
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DCline3dogs
I completely understand as I don’t have anyone to talk to also. I’m a widow & I live alone. My oldest son died in 2021 & my youngest son & his family live 3 hours. My father is dead & my mother has chronic back pain & is immobile. My younger sister lives with our mother & she is going through a divorce from her husband who abandoned her. My sister doesn’t visit me, help me, call me & rarely texts me. I have various cousins, a niece & nephew that are spread out in nearby states but are hours away from me. After I told my friends I had cancer, they quit contacting me. I have learned how to be my own care giver. It has been very difficult. I’ll admit I’ve been depressed, cried a lot, felt sorry for myself but I never gave up. I prayed & read my Bible everyday. Then I found cancer groups online like this one where I could share what I was going through & got empathetic responses. That really kept me going. I hope you find someone to talk to but I highly recommend the online cancer chat groups.
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Hello Carenity members,
In thinking about cancer and reading about recent health articles, it dawned on me that it seems that "survivor" is a term used for those recovering/defeating cancer... cancer survivor. For example, people who have survived a heart attack are not deemed heart attack survivors or people who overcome diabetes or any other ailment, HIV, etc., are not termed "survivor".
I feel survivor is a very powerful word and, has a deep meaning of someone who is strong and overcome the toughest obstacle... a word that rightfully describes those who recover/defeat cancer. However, I am interested in hearing your opinions on the use of the word in relation to cancer.
Do you use it as a word to describe yourself?
Do you think there is a stigma attached to one saying they were diagnosed with cancer?
Where do you think use of the word came from?
I look forward to your opinions and views.