Does chronic pain impact your romantic relationship?

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05/27/2019 at 5:37 AM

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Living in chronic pain can cause a person to face depression, anxiety, etc., which can unfortunately affect relationships, specifically romantic relationships.

Has living in chronic pain impacted your romantic relationship? If yes, how so?

Do you feel your partner understands and helps you deal with your chronic pain?

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toomuchpain

05/29/2019 at 2:13 AM

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Absolutely it does - without question. Chronic pain leaves me with a fogged mind - like I can't focus and it makes me not want to do anything or face anything... which leads to me not giving my 100 percent to my spouse. Also, I tend to complain a lot about my pain... which wears on my spouse. My spouse cannoot understand what I go through since my spouse - thankfully - is not in chronic pain like me.

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05/29/2019 at 2:15 AM

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I agree @toomuchpain‍ ... I am thankful my partner does no thave chronic pain, but I wish she could get inside my body and feel what I feel just to know how hard it is every day and how hard I try.

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05/31/2019 at 12:55 PM

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I agree oame11. My husband has chronic pain in his knees. What I wouldn't give just to have pain in my knees. He tries to understand and has done some reading on lupus but just give him one day in my body. Have a great day.

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07/15/2019 at 6:44 PM

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07/30/2019 at 3:28 AM

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I have Fibromyalgia. Thankfully I’m much better than I used to be. Back when I had a more difficulty taking care of myself, I felt very unattractive which affected my sexual feelings. I’m not someone who complains, and I try to hide when I’m feeling bad. I’d made up my mind to try to never tell my husband No when he would ask me if I wanted to get ‘close’. I really didn’t want my illness to affect my marriage anymore than it already did. Thankfully I don’t have a husband who expected sex more than 1-2 times a week. I could deal with that if I’m feeling mildly bad. I’ll be honest, if I’m feeling bad enough, nothing could get me to say ‘Yes’. I know which nights my husband will want to get ‘close’ so I can plan ahead with my medication. My husband is pretty understanding. He always takes me to my appointments, so he’s aware of all aspects of my illness.

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@LisaSpillman I know... I wish I did not think like that... but it is hard not to when we suffer through so much.

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@SuzieLooWho I am sorry your fibromyalgia makes you feel unattractive and that telling your husband this or that you are in pain is something you feel you cannot tell your him. For me, being able to talk about with my partner, at times can help. I am very thankful she listens and understands, generally. I know sometimes she probably gets tired of me talking about it, so I try not too... It is hard though because I live wiht it and sometimes just want to vent.

My medications can mess with sexual desire also... so that is frustrating as well.

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08/02/2019 at 8:10 PM

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Thanx AOmell for your input.......hope you have a blessed day.........just remember NEVER GIVE UP......😁🙏

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Yes. Unfortunately... The pain makes me get angry quickly. I have slim patience. Also it limits me from wanting to go out or do anything. Women want to go out and enjoy themselves and sometimes my pain is just too much, plus I am limited as how much I can actually do because of physical limitations.

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10/15/2019 at 2:32 AM

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I am struggling with this too... my partner does not seem to understand how much fibromyalgia affects me and the pain drains me. How do I help my partner understand?

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